How to: Write a love letter

Chapter 32 in The Big Book of How to Say It says that love letters are the most difficult and frustrating of all letters. We want it to be perfect. We want it to be memorable. We want it to be witty, intelligent, tender, touching, warm and fuzzy. Most importantly we want it to be perfect.



I never thought that there would be a "how to" guide that teaches people how to express their love. When I found this chapter it made me sad that people need to refer to chapter 32 for guidance of the heart. It shouldn't be that hard to tell someone that you love them. It should be easy to express love... right?

I guess I've always thought that if you have a passionate enough relationship with anyone to want to write a love letter it would just come naturally. All of the passion would sort of organically flow from your hear through the ink of the pen to be put down on paper for all of eternity.

As cheesy as this may sound I always think of the Nicholas Sparks book or that one romantic movie that we've watched a hundred and seventeen times.You know the one where Richard Gere is worlds away saving lives in a developing country, fighting plague and writing me love letters by a candle light because the only thing he can think of is how he would rather be with me. You know that story... The words that Richard always thinks of are perfect and I doubt that he had to refer to a letter writing help guide that gives suggested phrases like "when we're apart..." or "memories that keep me going..."

Love doesn't need a published guide book right? Do we really need to be reminded by a book to tell someone that they are beautiful or simply "i love you."


I must be wrong though because then there would be no "Chapter 32: Love Letters" on page 272 placed between "Memos" and "Invitations." And it wouldn't have caught my attention in the first place.

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